Self confidence is a highly difficult conviction to obtain. Especially with a society that is made to only tear you down, and a population that loves to watch it. As I said in one of my previous blogs, today’s world is full of competition and comparison. We are so so so quick to compare ourselves to individuals, often leaving us with a negative feeling or judgement towards others. Like society trains us to do. Society makes us think that we have to behave a certain way, look a certain way, and think a certain way. If someone goes against society’s beliefs they are horribly mocked and judged, leaving them with a lack of self confidence.
Living in a house with four other girls, comments about each other’s bodies are frequently heard. My sister claims she has man shoulders, my grandma is buying shirts that cover her butt because she thinks it is too big, my mom can never put an outfit on without asking for another person’s opinion, my nine year old sister is even starting to do the same. I can’t help, but blame society for every single one of these actions and comments. If it wasn’t for society burning an image of what women should look like, my family, or anyone, wouldn’t question their appearance. However, the pressure of maintaining a certain body weight to be “beautiful” destroys a person’s self confidence. It makes me incredibly sad to see pretty girls compare themselves to others, and how they believe they should look, instead of loving themselves. It makes me incredibly sad that pretty girls worry about being judged from others about their appearance, instead of believing they are pretty.
Not only are people worried about how they appear to others, they are worried about how others perceive them personally. In today’s society, people are attacked for believing in what they do and having their own opinions. We have all seen it on Facebook. I believe people should stand up for what they believe in, but people take it to a whole different level when they start disrespecting each other because they believe differently than them. So thank you society for being close minded, and making people afraid to speak their own opinions. Who can someone truly love their self when they are constantly told the way they think is incredibly wrong?
So my challenge to whoever reads this,
Be more open minded to other people’s opinions. Really listen to someone, and understand their point of view. Be accepting of all body types. Since it is swim suit season, there are multiple body types you will be seeing. Make them feel like they are beautiful, try to build someone’s confidence. On the flip side, put your swim suit on with confidence, and don’t even attempt to look in the mirror. Know you are going to freaking kill it at the pool, girl. Stop comparing yourself to others. Know what you have to offer, and be so content with yourself. Be content with others. Stop asking other’s opinions of yourself, your opinion is the only opinion that matters.
You can compare me to whoever you want, you can criticize my opinions all you want, and you can judge me for who I am all you want. But I am 100% confident I don’t give a damn.
Love, Kenzie Hilzer.