The Importance of Waiting


We all have that experience when we were in third grade where we found out that we had the biggest crush on someone in our classroom. We’d write them a note, and give it to them at recess asking them to check yes or no. And there you go, that’s where it all begins. 

We grow up with this notion that life is all about finding your person and living happily ever after. We spend years trying and hoping certain people are the ones that we are suppose to spend the rest of our lives with. We spend years trying to find someone that is going to complete us and make us “feel some type of way.” Sometimes we fail, sometimes we succeed. Sometimes we are so impatient we settle for the first person that shows a little interest in us. Sometimes we are lucky enough to wait, and hit it right on the head.

For those who are losing hope and becoming a little impatient,
Wait. Wait. Wait.
Spend your lonely nights talking to God. Spend your lonely nights not questioning God’s plans, but asking how you can become the person your person needs. Ask Him to make you a wife/husband. Ask Him to take care of your person while you are unable to. However, do not settle for someone who is not going to live up to your standards or make you feel good about yourself. Do not settle for something that seems like a constant job to get them to feel the same way you feel. Do not settle for something that makes you question if you are settling.

From a personal experience, I was very discouraged in finding someone who was going to live up to my expectations because they were so high. I worked so hard to become the person I am today, and I owed it to myself to find someone who was going to accept me for who I am and make me better. I too questioned if there was really that favorite love scene from the movies in real life. However, even though I was very close at times, I never stopped trusting God and His plan for an amazing person to come into my life.

So wait. Wait for that person that stays up late to do your laundry while you are tired, that gives you a hundred thousand reasons to stay, that always reassures you how lucky you are, that has the kindest heart and best intentions for you, that never makes you question how much they would do for you, that wishes you good luck before your games, that shows you off to everyone, that is constantly asking what you’re thinking, that loves taking pictures with you, that goes to church with you, that is so extremely proud of you, that brushes your hair for you after a long day, that is constantly doing things for you with such a great attitude.

That is the kind of person everyone deserves in their life. Everyone deserves that person that makes them want to be a better person because they deserve that. Everyone deserves someone who genuinely cares just as much as you care about them.

You’re going to find someone that meets all your expectations, you’re going to meet someone that fits so perfectly in your life, you’re going to meet someone that treats you better than what you ever wanted, you’re going to meet someone, and you’re going to just know you want to keep them around for a while. You’re going to meet someone that you know God made you wait for, and you’re going to be so happy you waited.

“The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul that seeks Him” -Lamentations 3:25

 

Finding Yourself and the Person You Want To Be

{Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will. -Romans 12:2}

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In a world consisting of 7 billion people, there are many discoveries and lessons to be learned. One of the biggest discovery there is is yourself. A lot of people struggle with figuring out who they really are and their purpose in this world. 

After getting out of a three year relationship, I struggled tremendously with figuring out who I was. Being with someone for three years, all I ever knew myself as was his girlfriend. There were situations I did not know how to react to because I would always ask him for advice and follow through with what HE would do. When I was placed in situations, I would react differently each time due to I did not know the right decision. Such as, do I stay humble and quiet or do I express my opinion?

After a year and a half, I have finally found myself.

I find myself on a bridge staring at the water, I find myself in my paintings, I find myself in the sunrise, I find myself in hot showers, I find myself at the bottom of a coffee cup, I find myself in my little sister, I find myself in the pictures I take, I find myself in a good book, I find myself in a song of worship at church, I find myself when someone smiles at me, I find myself on the pitching mound, I find myself in laughs that makes your stomach cramp, I find myself in a car ride with great friends, and I find myself in the lights at night. 

I know exactly who I am after so many months of searching and prayers to God, but most importantly, I know who I want to be. I think that is what makes people lose their way. The lost of distinguishment between who you are and who you want to be. We often make decisions based off who we want to be when we are lost, and not who we are at the moment. The problem with that is we are not ready to make those decisions. It is such a process to become the person who you truly want to be and is not something that should be jumped right into.

If you are struggling to find our purpose in this crazy world, look for your passion, look for what you are good at, look for what you love. Where there is passion, skill, and love there is purpose. Use your passion to change someone’s world, and you will find purpose. Talk to God, He is willing to show if you are willing  to see. 

Find yourself and purpose in your passions.