Society Destroys Confidence

Self confidence is a highly difficult conviction to obtain. Especially with a society that is made to only tear you down, and a population that loves to watch it. As I said in one of my previous blogs, today’s world is full of competition and comparison. We are so so so quick to compare ourselves to individuals, often leaving us with a negative feeling or judgement towards others. Like society trains us to do. Society makes us think that we have to behave a certain way, look a certain way, and think a certain way. If someone goes against society’s beliefs they are horribly mocked and judged, leaving them with a lack of self confidence.

Living in a house with four other girls, comments about each other’s bodies are frequently heard. My sister claims she has man shoulders, my grandma is buying shirts that cover her butt because she thinks it is too big, my mom can never put an outfit on without asking for another person’s opinion, my nine year old sister is even starting to do the same. I can’t help, but blame society for every single one of these actions and comments. If it wasn’t for society burning an image of what women should look like, my family, or anyone, wouldn’t question their appearance. However, the pressure of maintaining a certain body weight to be “beautiful” destroys a person’s self confidence. It makes me incredibly sad to see pretty girls compare themselves to others, and how they believe they should look, instead of loving themselves. It makes me incredibly sad that pretty girls worry about being judged from others about their appearance, instead of believing they are pretty.

Not only are people worried about how they appear to others, they are worried about how others perceive them personally. In today’s society, people are attacked for believing in what they do and having their own opinions. We have all seen it on Facebook. I believe people should stand up for what they believe in, but people take it to a whole different level when they start disrespecting each other because they believe differently than them. So thank you society for being close minded, and making people afraid to speak their own opinions. Who can someone truly love their self when they are constantly told the way they think is incredibly wrong? 

So my challenge to whoever reads this,

Be more open minded to other people’s opinions. Really listen to someone, and understand their point of view. Be accepting of all body types. Since it is swim suit season, there are multiple body types you will be seeing. Make them feel like they are beautiful, try to build someone’s confidence. On the flip side, put your swim suit on with confidence, and don’t even attempt to look in the mirror. Know you are going to freaking kill it at the pool, girl. Stop comparing yourself to others. Know what you have to offer, and be so content with yourself. Be content with others. Stop asking other’s opinions of yourself, your opinion is the only opinion that matters.

To society,

You can compare me to whoever you want, you can criticize my opinions all you want, and you can judge me for who I am all you want. But I am 100% confident I don’t give a damn.

Love, Kenzie Hilzer.


Self Love and Loving Others

{Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. -Ephesians 4:2-3}

Recently I have witnessed an abundance of bitterness, jealousy, and insecurity due to the competition and comparison we force upon each other. There is nothing worse than seeing such wonderful, beautiful people hate on themselves because they compare themselves to others or others have emphasized their insecurities. God has made us perfectly through His eyes, and we need to embrace our insecurities and face them head on because they were made FOR us. Not to tear us down and make us lack self-love, but to learn the true meaning of completely loving yourself. 

There is so much bitterness in the world because someone has something we do not, someone has a better body, someone is smarter, someone is more beautiful, someone is better at something than we are. We as humans are threatened by someone who is better than us causing hatred towards each other. Attacking each other for being better than us at something is not how God intended for us to behave towards each other. We should LOVE people’s strengths and weaknesses.

By loving our insecurities we are putting peace to our soul. We are feeding our soul the love it needs to grow and sore. By loving our insecurities we are allowing others to love them too. By loving our insecurities we are capable of loving others the way we love ourselves. The way we love each other is a reflection of how we love ourselves. Let’s make our hearts so full of love for each other we do not have to worry about competing with each other or comparing ourselves to each other. 

~So at the end of the day, love yourself so much you are content with God’s love and your love. Love each other the way you love yourself. Speak highly of your neighbor, pursue generosity, and do not give a damn what anyone says about you.~